Recommended Self Help Books?

I’m currently reading Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love by Ruth Soukup. It’s okay, but I don’t think it contains much actual useful information so far. Most of the book is describing the things that hold us back. I have that part down pat. :joy:

Does anyone have any recommendations for really good self help books about anxiety and stepping out of your comfort zone?

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I’ve never heard of that book :thinking: and I haven’t read any self-help books about anxiety and stuff. I do have a book that I’m really slowly working through. It’s a big book, but it’s also kind of heavy on some stuff. It’s called The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk.

Here’s the book blurb from Amazon

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

I’m not sure if it’s quite what you’re looking for, but I’m finding it helpful so far and I’m not even that far into it!

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Thank you! I’m almost finished with this book, and it’s wild. The moral of the story is to take risks and be brave. You miss all of the shots you never take.

She gave the example of when she and her husband invested in the exploratory drilling for a new oil well. Alas, they lost all the money but it was worth the risk. No regrets. She does regret not buying a cabin that needed $100K worth of work. They didn’t buy it because her husband didn’t think it was a good investment. She and I don’t even live on the same planet.

When you have money or come from money, it’s easier to take risks. What are you really risking? Money? Why would that matter if you have more than you need anyway.

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Exactly that! You’re better than me for even finishing the book :joy: I probably would have thrown it across the room! It’s no help to the average person if the person giving advice has a privileged point of view. The advice isn’t even going to be applicable!

Like yeah, you miss all the shots you never take, but if the shot you’re thinking about taking could literally ruin your life because of money or something else, then it’s a shot that deserves a whole heck of a lot of thought.